Week 16 – The Franklin Makeover

So we are in week two of this Franklin Makeover…As I mentioned in last weeks post – I replaced one of the attributes with Moderation and of course, this week is Kindness week.   I was anticipating…well, I don’t know exactly what I was anticipating.  But, I guess not quite this.

I took the word Moderation to a sit in order to discover what it actually means to me. The intention was having the opposite effect of what I desired.  Last week I had wrote about Moderation in terms of over/under achieving, which is true.  But it also applies to my eating patterns as of late (as I’ve been eating myself out of house and home)  As I sat with the word it became clear to me, that with moderation, I associated a restriction of behavior, limitation, and having to force myself to hold back, to which I immediately rebel with ‘Oh No – I am not’ and proceed to the extreme I was trying to avoid.

In another sit, I reflected how Moderation, is often seen what is needed to create balance and how nature naturally shows balance.  The sun shines so intently for part of the day and then there is complete darkness.  Overall, there’s a balance, but within the course of the day, there exists both extremes.  Same is true for the seasons (unless you live in Kauai ;).

Google search defines Moderation as ‘an avoidance of excess or extremes’, synonyms being restraint, self-restraint, self-control, self-discipline’  No wonder.  With an overly strict and domineering upbringing – this is not going to work.

By the end of the week, I decided on a new word that I liked better.  Abundance.  There can be abundance in fasting (in the cleansing and healing process) and there is abundance in feeding (the building process). Abundance in a winter (of resting, stillness and quietude) and in summer (BBQs, beaches and activity).  I can find tremendous abundance in eating a fresh plain apple. The nutrition it provides, the color, scent, how it grew, where it came from – this amazing thing that just grew from a tiny seed to feed my body.  Even if it were all I consumed – with this framework, it would feel like such a treat instead of ‘not enough’ and hence going to extremes.  Maybe there’s a better word, but I’ll  try this one out.

With Kindness I didn’t notice the patterns of extremes, but I saw again that talk of ‘not enough’ creeped in at times (Although now that I’m thinking of it, I think the patterns of extremes were there too) It was heart warming to read all the kindnesses people saw and did during the day and fun (if a little challenging) to think of new things that I could do and pretty amazing to start to see how quickly it mirrored back to me. Its a practice that I intend to continue to do my best at.  The biggest takeaway, is that I realized how many day-to-day kindnesses I’ve taken for granted – both things that I do and what others do for me.  And just how quickly it shifts the whole dynamic and the energy in recognizing it.  And also,  just how much time I spend alone and working by myself at home, when I could be sharing kindnesses.  What a cool thing to see in action.   And now that I think of it – what a great application of Abundance 🙂

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Week 15 – Sneaky Ol Habits

After the big holidays and I feel pretty good about staying on track in comparison to say Thanksgiving break (which left a whole lot to be desired, in terms of staying on course) As mentioned in week 13, there definitely seems to be a lightness that has taken place and settled in that feels almost foreign.  In my college psychology classes, it was drilled into my head ‘Correlation does not equal Causation’ – so my analytical self is hesitant to give credit to one particular thing without knowing that for sure that it is, indeed, the cause. (There was a whole lot of healing that took place for me in this past year outside this course)

That being said though, I think it speaks volumes that I don’t care to find out.  Still on the Mental Diet (I keep losing track of what day I’m on), I’m so acutely aware of how terrible it feels in my body and how scattered my focus gets when I entertain anything that takes my train off track.  Its become more obvious to me, the effects, the triggers and how its just not worth it.

I’ve become aware of little habits of self sabotage that masquerade themselves as progress.  Last week I had missed completing my service (or should I say 3 services, and during a week I knew I was a holiday and vacation week – what was I thinking..and yes, I know I’m only supposed to put one down per week)  I did my best but at 11:59pm, having started on all of them, they were too big to get done.  Even in that moment, the typical rush of procrastination, deadlines, working at the list minute -peptides kicked in and felt horribly familiar as did the disappointment of not actually doing what I said I was going to do.

I also noticed how lately I hesitate and wait to put my next service down for DAYS after the webcast.  Sometimes I run out of time. Not because I don’t want to Do It Now, but I hem and haw over what to do because there’s so much I could be doing. As you might guess, the week slips away and I have yet another reason to do more the next week, to make up for the miss (This is how I ended up with 3 for the week) I find it a fascinating addiction – trying hard to do well (overachieving) that I bomb out (underachieving), only to up the ante (perfectionism and overachieving) and repeat it over again. What a peptide rollercoaster.    Its one that snuck in there, a little at a time again, and had we not been practicing and adding to this process week after week, I’m sure it would have gone unnoticed.

These two things alone are huge and I can see what a cascading effect they have.

Oh and my Franklin word of the week is Moderation.  That so fits  😀

 

 

 

Week 14 – October Sky

I just finished watching the movie for the week.

I picked this particular movie as I’d already seen Rudy some time back, and I’m pretty sure I had seen Cool Runnings at one point too.

Although I’ve seen many films that have a similar theme of heroically overcoming seemingly impossible obstacles, it was interesting to put it through the framework of having a Definite Major Purpose (DMP), Positive Mental Attitude (PMA), Plan of Action (POA) and Master Mind Alliance (MMA) – what Mark calls the 4 habits of persistence.

Sure enough, the main character, Homer, exhibited all.  Inspired by the first satellite launched in space, he declared he was going to build a rocket (DMP). Despite all the ridicule and discouragement he received by his family, his school, friends as well steep odds, he continued on (PMA).  Despite not knowing how to do it at all or being weak in subject areas (math), he began with the first step – enlisting somebody who knew more than he did about it.  And from there, taking one step at a time, doing what was necessary to hone and refine his rocket launch experiments (POA).  He had support from a multitude of people – first his teacher who believed in his idea, then his ‘rocket boys’  partners wanted to help him succeed and a miner who helped him with the welding and engineering of the parts (MMA).  Eventually, once the townspeople saw how close he was to success, they began to believe in him and wanted to help him break the odds of being stuck with a miners life in a miners town.  With odds of a million to one to win the national science fair and receive a college scholarship, he kept going despite a multitude of setbacks, including a stolen display.  He persisted and he won.  Based on a true story, Homer went on to become an actual rocket scientist at Nasa that helped to launch shuttles into space.

Interestingly enough, if you take any of those 4 pieces out (DMP, PMA, POA, MMA) – there isn’t a movie or a story for that matter.   Without the DMP, there would be no direction or focus in what he’s doing – no movie. Without the PMA, Homer would have been swallowed up by the cement that the rest of the townspeople were – He never would have gotten started.  Without the POA, following the next step for his traction point, he probably would have gotten overwhelmed with all he didn’t know and just stopped.  And lastly, without the MMA, there would have been nobody who would have been there to steer him back to his DMP at those times when he was discouraged by the cement that still lingered all around him. In those times of almost giving up, the MMA believed in him enough until he believed in himself again.

So…it would seem that these 4 pieces are indeed necessary to chisel through the cement and to achieve any real success in an area that is a stretch outside of the norm.  I imagine the bigger the stretch or difference between the goal and the cement – the more critical it is that these apply – to counteract the mental chatter and triggers of said cement.

The cool thing though, as these are habits, they can be applied to anything, regardless of how “unlikely” a goal.  And with its persistence – the key to its eventual success.  That means there is literally nothing that one cannot do.

Which then begs the question….If you can do anything, what really do you want to do?

 

Week 13 – Changes afoot

Wow wee-  Its so hard to believe that its been 13 weeks and that we are half way through.

As always I feel like I’m playing a little bit of catch up each week (kind of like paddling really hard under the water to stay afloat with the program), but I’ve noticed this week I look forward to doing the activities.  I find I’ve been better at making time for them rather than feeling the resistance and struggle to get myself to get it done.  I suspect that a part of me has caught on that this is doing some real good for me….and I need to do as much of it as I can, and then some.

It can be challenging to notice changes when you are working by yourself most of the time.  This week, however, I saw people whom I haven’t seen in awhile and I was surprised to hear from both of them how much my energy has shifted and how things seem to be coming together for me.

I had to admit it, I feel it.  And I believe it.

Christmas, the last several years, has been challenging for me.  And it only having been 13 weeks since my dad passed, I’ve been anticipating the storm clouds to shower over me like the past 4 holiday seasons.   But it feels different.  Lighter. Brighter.  Almost foreign.  And I think these processes have a lot to do with it.

I’ve been playing, maybe for the first time, with my creative process and making it a true priority. Letting go of the judgment, hyper analysis, and just Doing It Now, however imperfect,  and I’m finding SO much life for me in there.  It’s  humbling.  That joy, which I have been so hungry for, but just couldn’t quite access, is starting to show itself effortlessly in my creating.  And its beautiful.  I’m getting a glimpse of the possibilities ahead and I’m beyond grateful.  Tears. The life and aliveness that this brings, literally soul oxygen…I had no idea just how much I wasn’t breathing.

Also, I love the flip cards.  There’s nothing like flipping through and remembering all the good things I’ve done ‘right’ to combat any kind of negative nonsense.  As a reforming perfectionist, anything ‘good’ would get filed away as ‘met expectations’.  And anything other, would get the fine tooth comb treatment, as well as incessant self ridicule.  Remembering these ‘right’ things feels good and restores my confidence and energy to persist and keep going.

And I know with that, I most definitely will win 😉

 

TFL – Week 2

So part of my DMP is to step further into my creativity to which this opportunity was presented to create a Course.   It’s something I had thought of before, but between blueprint and overwhelm did not get much anywhere.   So now this fits in perfectly.

I was partly wondering what topic to begin with, but after beginning with the first exercises, it kind of sorted itself out.

2  parts we were to examine, Pitch and Product

I found it interesting for use of Storytelling and Heros Journey as a way to overlay both the Pitch and Product. It makes it simpler and straight forward.

We’re starting with the pitch.

First thing, is to pick ‘Why you are here’ – The main way in which you address your prospect in the pitch of the course. Whether your purpose will be to:

  1. Inform
  2. Demonstrate
  3. Inspire  OR
  4. Influence

To pick only one and with this particular objective in mind, tailor all content towards that goal and eliminate anything else that may muddy the water.  It was suggested in doing so, not only will attract a certain type of buyer, but it makes the message very clear for them.

I initially thought I would be Informing or Influencing, but with the help of Josh’s post, realized I fit more into the Inspire category.

Next up is the Pitch video trailer

The question comes into play how, after watching it,  you’d like to have your prospect

Think, Say, Feel Do

What came up for me is

Think –  It really is possible to heal yourself, emotionally and physically.

Say – Believe that they can, with the right guidance

Feel – Excited and hopeful,  empowered

Do – Buy the course, of course 🙂  And to engage with other offerings

 

 

 

Week 12 – A positive Rhythm begins

Last week I mentioned it felt good to resume the practices, however hiccuppy.   This week I’ve noticed my energy increase as I’ve gotten into a feel good rhythm of the tasks and somehow been able to do the creative activities that I put on my list. You see, in the course of the last 12 weeks, I have had the tendency to think much bigger than what I I’ve been able to actually get done and have had to readjust my promises more than once.  I had in the beginning of the week thought that perhaps I needed to readjust them yet again (and maybe I still do), but I tell you, the Gal in the Glass’ eyes just shine after a day of doing all of those things.  I think it actually might be the best indicator for me of whether I’m on the right track with my DMP and daily activities. Can literally see the my soul being oxygenated. Hello Stranger! Where have you been ?

I have to say, I really have such an appreciation of the high demands of this course.   With all the activities at once, it felt like it scrambled my brain with overwhelm, but with that, there’s no time to think about anything other than to #Do It Now.  A perfect remedy for the perfectionist/procrastinator in me that waits for the “right” everything and paralyzed by ‘Not Good Enough’ voices.  Instead I find myself doing activities to further my DMP, Ok with figuring it out as I go, one tiny step at a time…dare I say….could this be working?  I guess we will see, but I’m hopeful.

 

Week 11 – Having Full Faith

Since my falling off the wagon, I’ve been slowly, but persistently getting back on the train.  And it feels good.  I feel the optimism again of simply keeping my promises and getting back to it. Coming from a lifetime expert procrastinator with impossible standards, who would procrastinate indefinitely (aka, beating self up on said procrastination and lack of progress and feeling hopelessly defeated), this seems like a pretty big deal.

BUT, aside from that something else stood out for me this week.

Faith.

I’ve never really been able to describe that word well, but from my cement, I’d understood it to mean a certain level of wishing and hoping for something to be fulfilled. That if you hope hard enough, maybe the powers of be will grant that wish. And that the powers that be are there, to actually grant it.  It had for me this slight quality of an elusive gamble. Just to have hope and trust that something will happen, while at the same time feeling burdened by knowing its impossibility.

So it took me aback when I read this

‘Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen’

I’ve heard that phrase many times before, but this time…

THE EVIDENCE??

Wait. a.. minute.

EVIDENCE?  Meaning PROOF? Proof of the something unseen actually existing?

Back tracking the sentence…its a substance?  So an actual thing?

Not some magical fairy dust that doesn’t actually exist and you pretend it does?

So wait.  That would mean, when Faith exists, whatever was hoped for…it ACTUALLY exists.   That would mean, its an Indicator – its the PROOF that it exists, not a wish or hope for a wish or hope.

So when Faith on a topic arrives, that topic already IS and will show up.

This has me wondering, the chicken or the egg…Does the Faith come first? Or has the unseen world with its blueprinting establish a certain outcome, and because of that you have Faith? Or maybe like the Body/Mind connection, they work in tandem, mirroring each other.

No matter.

When I think of a topic, I can instantly put myself in a place of Faith and knowingness.  As long as I don’t indulge negative thoughts that disrupt that calm, its good.

Wow.

And Faith is PROOF?

This changes everything.